In today’s world more and more women are becoming more independent and relying less on the resources of a man. Although men are natural providers, while traditionally women are seen as the helpmate, it never hurts to have your own as a woman. In fact many men approve of a woman being able to stand on her own two feet without them.
One thing that is often forgotten, I believe is the concept of never throwing in a man’s face of what you can do without him. A woman should never hit below the belt , threatening a man’s pride. If a man isn’t picking up his slack or is not treating you as the Queen you are, it’s just better to handle your business and walk away. If he’s smart, he’ll already know how much of a boss he is dealing with.
Recently writer Soraya Joseph from xonecole.com published an interview with Tiffney Cambridge, the ex fiance’ of rapper The Game on being ‘More Than A Rapper’s Ex’ and discussing the importance of having your own identity outside of your man while building your own income.
Cambridge mentions that outside of The Game who’s real name is Jayceon, she has never stopped working and has been teaching for the past 18 years! ” I never stopped working. Even when I was doing the reality show Marrying the Game, and I had that extra income, I never stopped working. Even when things were good between the two of us, I never stopped working. And I think now that we’re not together, you can clearly see why that’s important!”, Cambridge reveals to XONECOLE.
“It has always been important to me to be self-sufficient, my mother raised me that way. My grandmother raised my mother that way–to never depend on a man to provide everything for you. Because then what if you find yourself in a situation where you are no longer with that man, it’s like, then what do you do? Even though I’m not in a situation where I’m in a relationship with my child’s father, I’m still able to maintain my lifestyle.”
Sometimes women have a tendency to become so wrapped up into the relationship that we spend more time cultivating the structure of our relationship instead of continuously building our brands. I know I have been guilty of this many of times.
“I think that we as women our lives are programmed when we have kids and when we work. It’s just like doing the same thing every single day and you do lose yourself, but it is important to take some out for yourself and to really just enjoy yourself and to enjoy life and enjoy other relationships, ” Cambridge discloses.
In the interview it also suggests that Cambridge has definitely made it harder for other women to win over The Game’s heart because of her standards and ultimately how high she has raised the bar. Just think about the new song off his recent album ‘The Documentary 2’, ‘ Dedicated’ featuring Future and Sonyae.
“When you have been in a relationship for a long period of time, you know what another person deserves. You know what they are capable of having. You know what they are able to attract. So I think the knowledge of that lead Jayceon to create the song with Future. I think the references to me validate my point. He knows what my expectations are in a relationship and you’re going to either meet them or not. And that’s it”
Cambridge goes on in the interview stating how some of the lyrics in the song were funny because she doesn’t even own what is being described.
She states “I was surprised by the song but I wasn’t surprised by the lyrics. I told him, because we had a discussion about it, he played it for me, I said, ‘Boy, you know I don’t have no million dollars worth of Birkin bag in my closet, so at least take that part out.” So that was funny. Like I said, I do think that in his mind, Jayceon knows what I’m deserving of and he knows what my expectations are and he knows what I’m able to achieve. All of them. ”
When a woman has standards and is accustomed to wanting and having her own name and brand, it is quite impressionable in the eyes of a man. A man of substance then becomes so drawn into that type of passion , ambition , sophistication, pose, and grace and therefore wants a woman of substance for longevity ! Remember ladies no matter how much a man may deny it in the beginning, they always know the women who are really worth it! Never sell yourself short to fit in his bubble! Be a woman of worth!
For more on Tiffney Cambridge’s Exclusive Interview, check out more on XONECOLE’s Site http://xonecole.com/goal-digger-heres-why-tiffney-cambridge-is-more-than-just-a-rappers-ex/.